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Archive for January, 2009

Visit Yorkshire and Explore Bronte Country

Irish Anglican clergyman Patrick Bronte married Maria Branwell in 1812. Together they had six children. The first two children died aged 10 and 11. Charlotte, Patrick, Emily and Anne survived into their early thirties. They were to become the most remarkable family of writers Yorkshire had ever produced.

Charlotte, Patrick, Emily and Anne were born in the village of Thornton, west of Bradford, where Patrick was parson. The parsonage still stands today and is lived in by writer Barbara Whitehead. She is lovingly restoring the house to its regency glory.

It was in Haworth however, that the Bronte’s grew up and produced their writings.

Inspired by their writer parents and the bleak backdrop of the Yorkshire moors, the three girls wrote copiously from an early age. In 1847 the girls finally published their most famous novels. Charlotte’s Jane Eyre, Emily’s Wuthering Heights and Anne’s Agnes Grey, all became best sellers. Alas, the girls were destined to die young. Emily never completed another novel and died aged 30, followed by Anne aged 29 and finally Charlotte age 39, just a year after marriage.

Their father outlived them all and collaborated with their good friend Elizabeth Gaskell on Charlotte’s biography.

Haworth
Today you can visit Haworth and the parsonage where the Brontes once lived. The village itself is too pretty for words with cute little cottages, cobbled streets, Victorian shop fronts and olde worlde pubs. During the Christmas season there is a Victorian market on the main street and if your there at the right time, you will enjoy the carol singers. Morris dancers perform on the cobbled streets. The sound of their studded shoes hitting the cobbles and their clubs clashing together, provide exciting entertainment not normally associated with ‘gentle’ Morris dancing. This is real macho stuff (despite the outfits).

The Parsonage

You can visit the parsonage where the Brontes grew up. The rooms have been restored and the building is now a museum complete with library. The place provides plenty of atmosphere for the visitor to soak up. The rooms in which the family lived were tiny and dark and one can imagine a little scary at night when they would be lit by candlelight casting shadows and creating dark corners. This is in stark contrast to the brightness and space outside. The vast open skies and expanse of the moorland provided the birthplace of the gothic novel.

Top Withens

Emily Bronte wrote ‘Wuthering Heights’ in 1847. Her novel tells the story of doomed love and revenge. Top Withens has long been thought to have been the inspiration for her book. The ruined farmhouse stands on a hill overlooking the moors. Although the house itself bears little resemblance to the house described in her book, the situation may well have been in her mind when she wrote of the moorland setting of the heights. The place has become a popular attraction for Bronte and Kate Bush fans alike.

Bronte Waterfall

From the village of Haworth it is worth walking the two and a half miles to the falls which takes in some interesting reminders life in the 19th century, including some old coal mines. The waterfall was frequented by the Brontes and there is a rock formation in the shape of a chair named after them. Charlotte recorded a visit here during the winter of 1854 as, a perfect torrent racing over the rocks, white and beautiful!’ The falls varies from a torrent to a trickle and is best viewed after heavy rain.

Bronte Chapel

The Bronte Chapel is inside St. Michael and All Angels Church, Haworth. The old church was originally built in 1655, pulled down in 1879 and restored in 1962. Here you will find the Bronte family vault wherein lies buried the Bronte family. The chapel houses a 17th century communion table and an inscription where the engraver has mistakenly left out the ‘i’ in Christ.

Patrick Bronte lived a long life dying at the grand old age of 84 in the parsonage. He collaborated with famous authoress Elizabeth Gaskell whose autobiography of Charlotte celebrates its centenary. There is also a much awaited film being released in 2007 depicting the life and times of the Bronte family.

For those with any interest in the Bronte’s, a visit to the places that inspired their writing will be a rewarding experience.

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Surviving September: Tips to Help your Child and Family Get “back to School”

It is that special time of year again. A time of new beginnings as we close another summer chapter and start a brand new school year. Summer can be a magical time for children. It is a time for many to relax schedules, play, soak in some sunshine, grow, and most importantly… rest. The fall is an exciting time filled with anticipation for a healthy and productive school year. It can also present many challenges for families as they attempt to adjust to a more demanding schedule and meet the needs of everyone in the household.

Here are some ideas:

Talk to your child. This helps them to process their feelings about what they have experienced and what they are looking forward to in their world.
-Remember all of the fun activities from summer. Often times, talking about recent experiences helps them to look forward to and transition into new ones (encourages an understanding of time and change).
-What is your favorite thing about school? Why?
-Who are your friends? What do you like to do at recess?
-What do you think of your class this year? Classroom? Teacher?
-Do a timeline of his/her day. What did you do before lunch? After lunch? After school?

Prepare physically for the demands of school.
-Set a good daily routine. Help your child develop an awareness of schedules and why they are important. This helps children transition to new tasks and provides structure and security in their world.
-Set a bedtime routine and stick to it. Kids thrive when they are well rested. They are better able to attend and focus in class, stay healthier, and are generally happier during the day. (9-12 hours of sleep a night is optimal for growing children).
-Provide healthy snacks and meals and try to have a set mealtime for the family.
-Include appropriate grooming (bathing, oral hygiene, washing hands) habits in your routine as well.

Back to SCHOOL. An applied learning activity helps children to recall what they already know and build upon it. It also fosters a sense of achievement and confidence when learning new things. Help your child see him/her self as a learner.
-Try to read every day with your child. Take turns reading a favorite book. Ask him/her questions about what is being read. Look at pictures and talk about what is happening in the picture (try to guess what will happen next).
-Talk about the weather (science and nature). What will the weather be like today? In a month? In two months? What will be happening outside? Fall is a very exciting time to explore and learn about the changing seasons.
-When you are in your neighborhood, talk about signs you see, identify familiar things such as objects, street signs, and neighbors. When walking or driving home, let your child direct you.. “Which way do we turn next?”
-While at the grocery store, read the signs on the rows, read labels, read everything! Talk about grouping and why products are where they are and not somewhere else in the store. This helps children to build an awareness of order and ultimately supports problem solving in different situations.
-Go on everyday math and science adventures! Talk about numbers and use different objects around the house to count, add, multiply and divide. Ask questions like: How many more will make 10? If I eat 5 how many will be left? When cutting a pie, talk about fractions and percentages. When cooking, read and follow recipe directions, talk about measurement, and the science of cooking and baking. What makes things freeze? What is a solid? What is a liquid?
-Build a calendar with your child! Kids LOVE visual stimuli and it will also help you to keep track of special events and activities. Pull out the school year calendar and write in all of the half days, holidays, and special events. You can even include what lunch is served at school each day. Use your imagination and have fun with the activity! It helps with counting, days of the week, and months of the year. They will take pride in marking off days of the week and have a way to look forward to special occasions. It also helps them to process what has happened in their world and prepare for what is next.

Meet the needs of your entire family. Your children are not the only ones who are experiencing a life change. A new school year can bring about added stress with changes in schedules and demands that your whole family must adjust to.
-Plan an activity for the entire family to look forward to on an evening or weekend. The fun does not have to be over just because summer has come to an end.
-Make sure you know the schedules of other family members. Everyone seems to have lots things to do. Add these activities to your calendar.
-Set a time (and place) for your family to be together each day (ex. mealtime) so you can connect with each other about things that are important.
-Everyone get your rest and do your best to make healthy choices.

Many warm wishes for a healthy and productive September and school year!

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51 Ways to Say Thank-you in a Fundraising Letter for a Non-for-Profit (Includes Examples & Samples)

51 Ways to Say Thank-you in a Fundraising Letter

One of the hardest jobs in fundraising is crafting original
thank-you letters. You want to be thankful. But you also want to
be fiscally responsible. You cannot afford to write a unique
thank-you letter for each of the thousands of donations you
receive each year. Here are some ideas for keeping your
appreciation original.

1. In response to your recent gift to MSF, I join with the
people of Afghanistan in saying shúker, thank you, for your
generosity.

2. We are so grateful to you for your recent gift—thanks!

3. I opened today’s mail and found your generous donation.
Thanks!

4. Thank you for your donation.

5. I had to simply praise the Lord this morning when I received
your gift in the mail. Bless you!

6. Thank you for supporting our Move The Mountain appeal with
your gift of $50.

7. Thank you for renewing your support. Here’s how we are using
your gift already . . .

8. Your gift of $100 arrived today and will soon be hard at
work, helping us provide fresh drinking water to the people of
Nanbitu. Thanks.

9. Thank you for your continued, faithful support of our
hospital.

10. I have to admit I am overjoyed by your recent generosity.
Thank you for your donation of . . .

11. What a delight it was for all of us here at The Wethered
Street Mission to learn that you have included us in your Will.
May the Lord reward you richly for remembering the poor and
destitute with your bequest!

12. Two wonderful things happened this week. We won the Nobel
Peace Prize. And we received your gift of $2,000. Thanks! I know
the recognition that we treasure the most. It’s your . . .

13. Thank you for your generous grant of $20,000 for our
Brighten Up Campaign.

14. I greatly appreciate your kindness to our ministry.

15. Someone has said that the Inuit of Canada’s North have over
100 words for snow. I wish there were that many for thank you,
because I’d use every one of them in this letter.

16. We received your cheque today. What a blessing!

17. I put the phone down just now after talking with you, and
simply had to put in writing how excited we all are to be
receiving your grant for $100,000 toward our Living Hope
Campaign.

18. Simply put, if it wasn’t for faithful supporters like you,
we wouldn’t exist. So thank you for supplying the funds that we
need to make a difference in the lives of teenagers who struggle
with eating disorders right here in our own city.

19. For your generosity, I thank you.

20. Your gift of August 16, 2005 raised our spirits. Thanks to
your generosity, we are now able to . . .

21. Your tax-free donation reminds me of how much we depend on
your generosity and moral support to accomplish our mission.

22. Thank you for your gift. I did the math, and your kind
gesture will help us lay 550 brick in our new school project in
Bolivia. So I thank you today. The children will thank you in
January!

23. Thank you for your bequest. It touched our hearts to know
that . . .

24. Two things thrill me about your recent gift to Thorburn
College. One is your generosity. And the other is your continued
faith in our mandate.

25. Your gift, which arrived this morning, will help us plant
200 trees along the Pacific Coast. Thank you so much!

26. I was looking through our files the other day and realized
that you have been supporting our group for 20 years come the
end of this month. So this is a personal letter from me, and
from the people we serve, thanking you for your faithfulness.

27. I suppose the word is “gratified.” We are gratified that you
believe in our work enough to give us a grant. Thank you for
your trust in us.

28. This is just a quick note, but it comes from my heart as I
head out the door for my flight to India. Thank you for your
recent gift. Your generosity will make an immediate difference
in the lives of mothers in Calcutta. I am going to make sure of
that, and to keep you up to date on . . .

29. “Use where needed most.” Those four words on your recent
cheque have changed the life of one youngster forever. His name
is Ahmed. And he is no longer blind, thanks to you.

30. The Bible says that the Lord loves a cheerful giver. And so
do we! Thanks for your kind donation to our annual Beat The
Streets Campaign.

31. Billy K. is serving life in San Quintin and can’t thank you
for your gift to our ministry. But I can, because I met with
Billy yesterday. Your gift touched his heart. Here is what he
said by way of thanks.

32. For your gift, for your prayers and for your steadfast
commitment to the work of the Lord in Nepal, I thank you.

33. I shared Thanksgiving Dinner with 100 wonderful street
people last night, thanks to your generosity. See the enclosed
photographs.

34. Martin Luther said that if you want to change the world you
should pick up your pen. I see from this morning’s mail that you
picked up your pen last Friday. Your gift has changed the world
of one single mother here in Brisbane, who I will call Sally.

35. I showed your recent gift to the Head of Obstetrics, and you
should have seen her reaction! She almost fainted in the lobby,
she shrieked so loud!

36. Samantha loves her mom. She loves her bike. And she loves
the person who saved her life. You. Because of your gift of
December 18, 2005, we were able to buy Samantha a new . . .

37. You are a treasure to us all. Thanks again for standing with
us.

38. Thanks to your kindness and generosity, one hundred blankets
are being loaded on a plane as I write, headed for the New Hope
Orphanage in Johannesburg. They have warmed many hearts around
here already, because of you.

39. Thanks again for your gift. You are an example to us of a
true servant spirit, esteeming others more than yourself, and
putting Kingdom priorities ahead of your own.

40. I must dash. Let me conclude with a final heartfelt THANK
YOU for remembering our friends who live with disabilities.

41. Next time you are driving down Princess Street, please take
a look at the new wheelchair entrance to our food bank, and our
guests who are using it, thanks to your generosity and
commitment to our work.

42. You’ll see that everyone here at the office has signed this
thank-you letter. That’s because we are so amazed by your
faithful support over the years.

43. We are humbled by your recent expression of support for our
work. Thank you.

44. I have a tune running through my mind as I am writing this
thank-you letter to you. I learned it at camp. You probably did,
too. Your gift brought it to mind, your generous gift.

45. When we started our Run For Their Lives campaign last year,
some people said we would never meet our goal. But they did not
figure you into their thinking, or your generosity. Because,
thanks to your gifts this year, we have not only met our goal.
We’ve surpassed it. Thanks!

46. Someone once said that whatever we possess becomes of double
value when we share it with others. Looking around me at the
difference your financial support has made to our organization,
I know that to be true. So I’m writing you this brief note to
express my thanks, our thanks, for you and for your donations in
recent months.

47. Have you ever wondered if your gift to our ministry would
arrive at a crucial time, and save the day, as it were? Well, I
know that your gift of £100 did this week. Let me explain how.

48. Your gift of $5 put a smile on a boy’s face yesterday. I was
there to witness it myself. Here’s what happened.

49. A friend of mine used to say that we should hem our
blessings with gratitude lest they unravel. So this letter is my
way of putting a hem around the generous gift you sent us last
week. I don’t want to ever forget it.

50. The nice thing about writing thank-you letters is that we
are blessed twice. Once when we receive your gift, and again
when we remember it in writing. I hope you are doubly blessed in
the giving. You will be, when I describe the difference your
gift is making in our . . .

51. Thank you for your gift.

© 2005 Sharpe Copy Inc. You may reprint this
article online and in print provided the links remain live and
the content remains unaltered (including the “About the author”
message).

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Learn to Help Autistic Persons As Early As Possible By Understanding the Signs of Autism

The disorders that affect the behavior and the way that an individual interacts with others are very hard to understand and therefore to treat. Because we know so little about the brain we can’t determine what causes developmental disorders or what is the best thing we can do to help people with one of these affections.

Autism is a general term used to cover all the mental disabilities. At the moment the only thing that we know to be right about autism is that the sooner autism is discovered the better for the person that suffers from it. If an autistic person is not treated right and taken care of things can go pretty bad, because autistic are irresponsible, for them crossing the street when the traffic light are red is not wrong, for example.

So the key to helping autistic people is to learn the signs of autism and detect them as soon as possible. But it’s pretty hard to recognize the signs of a disorder like autism, because the individuals with autism act & react very different from each other so doctors can’t tell exactly how this affection manifests.

If you are a teacher or if you are going to be a parent it’s very important to learn what the most common signs of autism are so that you recognize a child with the disorder as early as possible so that he can be helped. The world is a frightening place for autists so they need special care before something wrong happens. That’s why it’s important to know the signs of autism and discover it early.

Most autistic children don’t interact socially with other children, they almost don’t talk at all because their language skills are poorly developed. They seem to have obsessive interests for certain objects, which causes them to stare and focus at something for hours.

They are also withdrawn and indifferent to what’s happening around them, avoiding all contacts with other people, even eye contact. Some of the parents who have autistic children said that in the beginning they just thought that their child smart and calm, because he wasn’t demanding attention or crying like the others, and he liked to play alone for a long time. Only later when they realized that the child should have started talking a long time ago they started to suspect him of autism.

Other common signs of autism are that some of the children with autism often move repeatedly in the same way, rocking back and forth for example. Autistic children do not like to play with other kids at all and they are very sensitive to bright lights and loud noises.

These are the most encountered signs of autism but remember that this affection is special and each individual with autism behaves differently. But seek professional help if you suspect your child to be autistic because the earlier he is discovered, the more things can be done to help him.

More informations about autism symptoms checklist or about signs of autism can be found by visiting http://www.autism-info-center.com/

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The History of the Rosedale Neighbourhood in Toronto

The wealthiest neighbourhood in Toronto came into being in 1824, when William Botsford Jarvis bought a portion of a 200 acre land grant made to Captain George Playter for his role in supporting King George in the American Revolution. Jarvis was the sheriff of the home district, and was a staunch supporter of the crown, continuing the family tradition passed on by his father, who like Playter had fought for the Crown during the American Revolution.

Jarvis moved to the property with his wife Mary. After their house was completed, Mary named the residence Rosedale because of the many roses that grew in the area. The couple would have five children, and Rosedale itself was one of the centres of concentration for William Lyon MacKenzie’s rebellion. MacKenzie and Jarvis had much ill will towards each other, and MacKenzie had stated one of the purposes of his march was to burn Rosedale to the ground. This was averted when a colonel in the ill fated rebellion said he would not fight women and children. Jarvis would later hang this colonel.

Legend has it that the famously meandering streets of Rosedale were patterned after the tracks Mary Jarvis made on her many rides throughout the property. Mary Jarvis died in 1852, and William lived on over a decade after her death until 1864. Although their names are synonymous with the history of the community, theirs was actually the second house built in the area, the first being built on the Don River in 1818.

The Jarvis family continued to have a major role in the development of Rosedale, with William’s nephew Edgar being the major developer of the entire region. He acquired much of the land and proceeded to build several houses in a northerly direction, as well as bridges at Huntley Street and from Bloor Street. In 1870, Rosedale seceded to Yorkville, which some say marks the proper beginning of the community.

Housing construction in earnest did not begin in Rosedale until the last little bit of the 19th century, and continued into the 20th, with a brief pause during the Depression and World War II. After the war, urban developers began to undertake high density projects in South Rosedale, until apartment building was halted by a community initiative.

Today, all of Rosedale’s streets have been developed, with the last seeing construction begin as recently as 2000. The neighbourhood retains many of its heritage homes, and has been Toronto’s wealthiest community for over a century.

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Misconceptions About Women in Islam

misconceptions about women in islam

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i`ll quote some of the points mentioned in the letter & show you the Islamic rule on them :

-”The Koran allots daughters half the inheritance of sons. It decrees that a woman’s testimony in court, at least in financial matters, is worth half that of a man’s.

Under Shari’a, or Muslim law, compensation for the murder of a woman is half the going rate for men.”

about the inheritance issue :

First, the principle of women inheriting half the money is only applicable in 45 percent of the cases. In the other 55 percent, women inherit the same amount or sometimes even more. For example, a mother and a father each inherit the sixth of their son’s property when they are not the only inheritors.

In addition, the laws of inheritance in Islam are proportional to the duties of spending. Indeed, a man in Islam has the responsibility of supporting his family, his brother’s children (when his brother dies), his parents (when they retire and do not have an income), his children from his previous marriage (if he has them) and his household, including his wife and children. A woman, on the other hand, does not bear this responsibility. She has the freedom to use the money she collects from her dowry or work as she pleases.

You might object here, saying that women today are working and helping their husbands pay the expenses, which entitles them to share equality with men. In fact, you should know that women’s economic assistance to their husbands, which has become the norm today, is only an answer to the females’ wishes. Islam does not oblige women to spend on their households. It is a free choice many women have themselves taken today to feel more liberated, so it does not entitle them to a bigger portion of the inheritance.

about the testimony of a woman :

[ 2:282] O you who believe, when you transact a loan for any period, you shall write it down. An impartial scribe shall do the writing. …….. Two men shall serve as witnesses; if not two men, then a man and two women whose testimony is acceptable to all. Thus, if one woman becomes biased, the other will remind her. It is the obligation of the witnesses to testify when called upon to do so. …… Financial transactions are the ONLY situations where two women may substitute for one man as witness. This is to guard against the real possibility that one witness may marry the other witness, and thus cause her to be biased. It is a recognized fact that women are more emotionally vulnerable than men. If the woman as a witness was worth half that of a man, the verse would have stated so clearly. But obviously that is not the case. Women’s testimony in all other matters are equal to that of a man or even supersedes his testimony as in the case of a wife testifying against her accusation of adultery

about compensation for the murder of a woman is half the going rate for men

This is totally false as both men and women are equally treated and compensated according to the Quran. Such laws are found in the fabricated books of Hadiths and Sunna and they are not the laws of God in the Quran

2-178 “O you who believe! retaliation is prescribed for you in the matter of the slain, the free for the free, and the slave for the slave, and the female for the female, but if any remission is made to any one by his (aggrieved) brother, then prosecution (for the bloodwit) should be made according to usage, and payment should be made to him in a good manner; this is an alleviation from your Lord and a mercy; so whoever exceeds the limit after this he shall have a painful chastisement. “

“For a woman to prove rape in Pakistan, for example, four adult males

of “impeccable” character must witness the penetration, in

accordance with Shari’a.”

i guess that you should the verse from the quran to realize that it has been twisted in your quote :

islam stood by the side of the woman if she`s been accused of adultary, & the witnesses must be at least four to say such word about her, but your quote is totally untrue & is not even in the quran , you can read the whole quran & won`t find such thing , the real case is :

24-4 “And those who accuse free women then do not bring four witnesses, flog them, (giving) eighty stripes, and do not admit any evidence from them ever; and these it is that are the transgressors, “

24-5 “Except those who repent after this and act aright, for surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. “

“In Islam, women can have only one spouse, while men are permitted four.”

read the verse about having more than one wife, very carefully. [4:3]

“And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course. “

What does it say? And what do you understand from it?

Man Supports And Protects Women

Do you understand that one must take on the role of supporter, protector, provider, custodian and servant to the family (man’s role)?

Woman Gives Birth - Raises Children

One must take on the role of carrying the child and delivering it and then feeding it and raising it to become a true servant of Allah (woman’s role).

Not Equal - But Treated Fairly In Justice

Men and women are not the same nor are they “equal” as some folks would have us believe. Whatever is on one side of an ‘equals’ sign must be exactly the same as what is on the other side without any difference in value, only in the way that it is expressed. How then could we say that a man, who is unable to conceive or give birth and then breast feed a baby is the equal to a woman who can?

Equal In Faith And Actions

They are equal in their beliefs and good deeds of course. But still they are not the same as each other. Each one must fulfill their role as humans.

Children’s Rights Protected

Islam is also very much about rights. Children also have rights in Islam. When a man dies his wealth is left to his family. How could the court know who to give the wealth of a man, if he was one of several husbands to a woman? How would a child know who his father was? No society ever supported the concept of a woman being married to two or more men at the same time.

Women’s Right - Best Treatment

Almost every society supported the concept of a man having more than one woman. Yet, they did not limit the number nor did they provide the protection and maintenance that Islam insists on for each one. Islam came to set things straight. Women were given rights. Men were strictly ordered to treat their women with the very best of treatment.

Limit - Number in Marriage

When the verse was revealed the companions of Muhammad, peace be upon him, did not run out with the attitude that they were going to get four wives all of a sudden. Some of them already had much more than that and these men had to divorce their wives, if they had more than four. So this was not an order to go out and get four wives. It was an order to begin limitations. And the first limitation was; No more than four.

Limit - Equal Maintenance and Treatment

Second, the limitation of equal treatment for all of them. How could a man keep more than one wife unless he was exceedingly wealthy and/or exceedingly strong and virile?

Next, the limitation very clearly states; “.. but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one …”

Woman’s Right To Choose Any Husband She Likes -

Even If He Is Already Married

One very important point that is often overlooked by modern society is the right that Islam gave to women which isn`t given to men. A man is limited to marry only from the woman who is not already married. Obviously, this provides rights for the children and the right to inherit from the father. But Islam also permits the women to marry a man who is already married to protect her in a society where the number of women outnumbers the population of men. Additionally, the woman has a large selection of men to choose from. In fact, she has the right to choose from any man in the community as long as he does not already have four wives. She also has the opportunity to see how the other wife was being treated and go into a marriage knowing exactly what to expect from her husband. After all, he must treat her in the same way as he is treating the other wife.

Women Need Husbands - Allah Provided the Answer

The prophet, peace be upon him, predicted that in the Last Days the women would outnumber the men to a great extent. Today we are seeing this become a reality all over the world. Allah has already provided for us for this occasion. After all, He is the One who makes it all happen and He already knew that many women would come into Islam in these days. He also knew many of the Muslim men would be killed or die at an early age, just as it is happening these days. Allah these women need husbands. Allah has given us the solution to all of life’s problems.

“Muhammad’s favorite wife, A’isha, according to her biographer, was

six when they wed, nine when the marriage was consummated. In Iran

the legal age for marriage is nine for girls, 14 for boys”

Allah has willed for this to happen in order to keep the sirah (life) of prophet Mohammad pbuh alive even after his death, because she had fresh memory at a young age , remembered everything, & she was the first one in number of Hadiths (sayings & acts of prophet Mohammad pbuh) she narrated.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was the last of the Prophets and the best of creation; and ‘A’isha was a very intelligent and observant young girl with a very good memory. ‘A’isha (may Allah be pleased with her) spent the next nine years of her life with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and she grew into womanhood, she remembered all that she saw and heard with great clarity, for to be the wife of the Prophet was even more than extraordinary. So much happened around him - the Quran continued to be revealed, verses by verses, and people’s hearts were constantly being turned over and transformed, including hers and she was a witness of so much of all that took place. It is not surprising, therefore, that a great deal of the knowledge that we still have today, about how the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) lived and behaved, was first remembered and then taught to others by ‘A’isha. It is thanks to this exceptional marriage, between a man nearing the end of his life and a woman still near the beginning of hers, that we know so much about the both of them

“Wives in Islamic societies face great difficulty in suing for

divorce, but husbands can be released from their vows virtually on

demand, in some places merely by saying “I divorce you” three

times.”

a wife can demand for a divorce if she does not like her husband for any reason. She can do so giving him back the bridal money he gave her. This is lawful as proved in the Qur’an and the prophetic narration: Allaah says (which means): {… Then if you fear that they would not be able to keep the limits ordained by Allaah, then there is no sin on either of them if she gives back (the Mahr or a part of it) for her Al-Khul’ (divorce).}[2: 229] , this case is called “Khulu”

The Prophet said to the wife of Thaabit Ibn Qays “Will you return his garden?” She said, “Yes”, then the Prophet ordered Thaabit to accept the garden and divorce her.” [al-Bukhaari]

the same case if a man divorces his wife, he has to pay for her.

“”Islam supposedly gives me the right to divorce,”

she says. “But what about my rights afterward?”"

In Islam, the woman is not neglected after the divorce. Indeed husbands are instructed to provide housing to the divorced wife until her waiting period is completed

“Women’s rights are compromised further by a section in the Koran, sura 4:34, that has been interpreted to say that men have “pre-eminence” over women or that they are “overseers” of women.”

first let`s read the verse : 4-34 “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth.”

What does it mean that men are “protectors and maintainers” of women? To answer this question, let us first look at the Arabic word that we are translating as “protectors and maintainers”. This word is “qawwâmûn” the plural of “qawwâm”.

This word – qawwâm – in turn, is an emphatic form of the word “qayyim”, which means a person who manages the affairs of others. The qayyim of a people is the one who governs their affairs and steers their course. Likewise, the qayyim of a woman is either her husband or her guardian – the one who has to look after her and ensure that her needs are met.

When Allah says: “Men are the qawwâmûn of women…” it means – and Allah knows best – that men are held liable for handling the affairs of women and are responsible for the women under their care. A husband, therefore, has the responsibility of taking care of his wife, protecting her, defending her honor, and fulfilling her needs regarding her religion and her worldly life. It does not mean – as all too many people have falsely assumed – that he has the right to behave obstinately towards her, compel her, subject her to his will, suppress her individuality, and thus heinously negate her identity.

His status as protector and maintainer is pure responsibility, pure liability, and not so much a position of authority. It requires from him that he uses his good sense, thinks carefully about what he does, and exercises patience. It means that he cannot be hasty and offhanded in his decisions. It does not mean that he can disregard his wife’s opinions and belittle her good person.

“beating is so prevalent in the Muslim world that social workers who assist battered women in Egypt, for example, spend much of their time trying to convince victims that their husbands’ violent acts are unacceptable.”

this is what islam says :

prophet Mohammad pbuh said “Do not beat the female servants of Allah”

he said as well : “the best of you is the best to his wife”

he also said :”Some (women) visited my family complaining about their husbands (beating them). These (husbands) are not the best of you.”

In another Hadith the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) is reported to have said: “How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then he may embrace (sleep with) her?”

” Each year hundreds of Muslim women die in “honor killings”– murders by husbands or male relatives of women suspected of disobedience, usually a sexual indiscretion or marriage against the family’s wishes.”

“There is no such concept in Islam that is called “honor killing”. Islam holds every soul in high esteem and does not allow any transgression upon it. It does not allow people to take the law in their own hands and administer justice, because doing so will be leading to chaos and lawlessness. Therefore, based on this, Islam does not permit such killings.

First of all, in order to sanction killing, it must be through a binding verdict issued by an authoritative law court. Individuals themselves have no authority either to judge cases or pass judgments. Therefore, a Muslim should not sanction such killing because doing so will be leading to the rule of the law of the jungle. A civilized society cannot be run by such laws.”

“Like all other religions, Islam strictly prohibits murder and killing without legal justification. Allah, Most High, says, “Whoso slayeth a believer of set purpose, his reward is Hell for ever. Allah is wroth against him and He hath cursed him and prepared for him an awful doom.” (An-Nisa’: 93)

The so-called “honor killing” is based on ignorance and disregard of morals and laws, which cannot be abolished except by disciplinary punishments.

“In Islam, there is no place for unjustifiable killing. Even in case of capital punishment, only the government can apply the law through the judicial procedures. No one has the authority to execute the law other than the officers who are in charge.

Honor killing could be a wrong cultural tradition. It is unjust and inhumane action. The murderer of that type deserves punishment.”

“Female circumcision, also called female genital mutilation, is another case

in point. It involves removing part or all of a girl’s clitoris and

labia in an effort to reduce female sexual desire and thereby

preserve chastity.”

female circumcision is more a cultural practice than a matter of Islamic teachings. the hadîth (sayings of prophet Mohammad pbuh) which refer to the practice are all weak. The presence of that practice in Egypt an Nubia up to this day is just a continuation of a practice that has been around since the time of the Pharaohs. It is often hard for people to give up deeply ingrained customs and cultural practiced. They continue to be passed down from generation to generation.

Another example of the tenacity of custom is the practice among Indian Muslims where the woman pays a dowry to the husband. This is a pre-Islamic Indian custom that Islam declares false. Islam requires the husband to pay a dowry to the wife. Nevertheless, this custom persists among Muslims in both India and Pakistan, even though the history of Islam in India goes back for many long centuries.

Likewise, Islam put an end to many pre-Islamic customs that marginalized women and denied them their rights. It put an end to people condemning each other’s lineages. It put an end to the practice of wailing at a person’s burial. Nonetheless, these practices can still be seen in some Muslim societies and are often regarded by the people of those societies to be part and parcel of Islamic Law.

The Shâfi`î school of law has been the prevalent legal school in Egypt since its formative years. It may be that the scholars of the Shâfi`î school who promoted the view that female circumcision is obligatory had been influenced by the prevailing culture of the region.

There is no evidence that this practice was widespread among the Pious Predecessors. Moreover, the practice has never been prevalent in the regions where Islam originated – Mecca and Madinah and the surrounding areas of Arabia. It is extremely rare. If female circumcision had truly been endorsed by Islamic Law, it would certainly have been practiced and perpetuated in those regions. Only male circumcision is practiced, due to the authentic evidence in the Sunnah that it is part of the natural way (fitrah).

We conclude that female circumcision is merely a cultural practice that has no prescribed Islamic ruling for it and that is supported by no decisive ****ual evidence. It is simply a regional custom in the places where it is practiced. We must then take into consideration that many medical professionals consider it to have detrimental affects for the girls who undergo the operation. On that basis, it would be impermissible to allow this custom to continue. In Islamic Law, preservation of the person – the life and bodily soundness of the person – is a legal necessity. Anything that compromises this legal necessity by bringing harm to the person is unlawful.

“They are required to cover their bodies–in varying degrees

in different places–for fear they might arouse the lust of men

other than their husbands.

But many Muslim women feel cultural and family pressure to cover themselves.”

Muslim women observe HIJAB (covering the head and the body) because Allah has told them to do so.

“O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women to draw their outer garments around them (when they go out or are among men). That is better in order that they may be known (to be Muslims) and not annoyed…” (Qur’an 33:59)

Other secondary reasons include the requirement for modesty in both men and women. Both will then be evaluated for intelligence and skills instead of looks and sexuality. A Muslim school girl is quoted as saying, “We want to stop men from treating us like sex objects, as they have always done. We want them to ignore our appearance and to be attentive to our personalities and mind. We want them to take us seriously and treat us as equals and not just chase us around for our bodies and physical looks.” A Muslim woman who covers her head is making a statement about her identity. Anyone who sees her will know that she is a Muslim and has a good moral character. Many Muslim women who cover are filled with dignity and self esteem; they are pleased to be identified as a Muslim woman. As a chaste, modest, pure woman, she does not want her sexuality to enter into interactions with men in the smallest degree. A woman who covers herself is concealing her sexuality but allowing her femininity to be brought out.

Often forgotten is the fact that modern Western dress is a new invention. Looking at the clothing of women as recently as seventy years ago, we see clothing similar to hijab. These active and hard-working women of the West were not inhibited by their clothing which consisted of long, full dresses and various types of head covering. Muslim women who wear hijab do not find it impractical or interfering with their activities in all levels and walks of life. Hijab is not merely a covering dress but more importantly, it is behavior, manners, speech and appearance in public. Dress is only one facet of the total being. The basic requirement of the Muslim woman’s dress apply to the Muslim man’s clothing with the difference being mainly in degree. Modesty requires that the area between the navel and the knee be covered in front of all people except the wife. The clothing of men should not be like the dress of women, nor should it be tight or provocative. A Muslim should dress to show his identity as a Muslim. Men are not allowed to wear gold or silk. However, both are allowed for women.

For both men and women, clothing requirements are not meant to be a restriction but rather a way in which society will function in a proper, Islamic manner

“Muslim countries tradition keeps ordinary women at home and off the

Street”

This also is not true. The social structure in the East where Islam (Submission) prevails encourages the woman to make her house her first priority but there is no prohibition whatsoever on women having to work and earn their living. The Muslim (submitter) woman has been given the privilege to earn money, the right to own property, to enter into legal contracts and to manage all of her assets in any way she pleases. She can hold a job or run her own business and no one has any claim on her earnings including her husband. Historically, Muhammed’s first wife was a merchant who hired Muhammed to work for her. Muslim women went along with their husbands, fathers and brothers during battles to take care of the wounded and help in the back lines of the troops..

“no right for woman to vote in islam”

This also is not true. Women in Islam (Submission) have the right to vote, express their views on any public matter, run for an office and even be the head of a state

Allah said in the Holy Quran :

60-12 “O Prophet! when believing women come to you giving you a pledge that they will not associate aught with Allah, and will not steal, and will not commit fornication, and will not kill their children, and will not bring a calumny which they have forged of themselves, and will not disobey you in what is good, accept their pledge, and ask forgiveness for them from Allah; surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful”

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Get Acquainted With the Versatile Art Dealer, Mirek Klabal

The tale of Mirek Klabal is an amazing story that can only happen in America. Mirek Klabal started out as a boy in Prague, dreaming about the world of art. Even at a young age Mirek Klabal had a passion for art. As a kid Mirek Klabal was always reading art books and going to art museums. Mirek Klabal studied art in college and told his parents that he would find a way to make art pay off for him. Boy did Mirek Klabal make good on that promise. Mirek Klabal is one of the world’s most prominent art dealers. Mirek Klabal’s expertise is routinely sought out all over the world. That sometimes makes Mirek Klabal’s travel schedule hectic. Mirek Klabal has clients on every continent which is an amazing feat, and it speaks volumes about the level of service Mirek Klabal provides for his clients.

Mirek Klabal is living the American dream. Mirek Klabal is a living a lifestyle that people see in movies. Mirek Klabal has obtained all the finer things in life. Every day Mirek Klabal drives to office in a fancy sports car. Mirek Klabal’s office is the most stunning gallery in the land. Mirek Klabal has elegantly combined two apartments to form an amazing gallery. Mirek Klabal has custom made floor and lighting. The gallery called MK Fine Arts is a thing of beauty. Mirek Klabal says his gallery makes him feel happy and productive. Mirek loves the hustle and bustle of making deals and acquiring “one of a kind” paintings. Mirek wouldn’t trade his job for any other in the world. Mirek Klabal’s company is called MK Fine Arts. The gallery is so modern looking and minimalist it is a true delight to set foot in there. There is nothing else like it. When you walk into the gallery you are engulfed by the soft music that is playing and all the fine paintings that you see. Mirek Klabal has a huge inventory of paintings. The artists that Mirek Klabal collects for his own personal collection are: Marc Chagall, Pablo Picasso, Claude Monet, Vincent Van Gogh, Andy Warhol, Salvador Dali, Edgar Degas, Wassily Kandinsky, Gustav, Klimt, Joan Miro, Henri Matise, and Jackson Pollack.

Mirek Klabal is so happy that he made his dreams come true in America. Mirek spends the weekends at his compound in leafy Greenwich, Connecticut, where Mirek Klabal mingles with the upper crest of society. Now days Connecticut is surrounded by the hedge fund billionaires. Mirek Klabal lives next to all these new potential customers. Mirek Klabal hopes the hedge fund boom continues as Mirek Klabal says “Hey they pay lots of commission, they want the art they want and I facilitate their art transactions.” Mirek Klabal loves living in Greenwich; he says it is so close to the city but so far away. Mirek lives to play tennis and golf. Unfortunately he has been so busy his tennis and golf game are not where he wants them to be. That is the story with most successful businessmen like Mirek Klabal. They are driven by their passion and in Mirek’s case that passion is art. Art is the essence of Mirek Klabal.

Mirek is friends with all the famous tennis players from his native Czech Republic. During the US open you find Mirek Klabal entertaining players, hosting players and watching tennis. Mirek Klabal always finds time out of his hectic schedule to watch the US Open from his court side seat. He counts many professional tennis players friends such as:
Thomas Berdych, a professional tennis player from the Czech Republic. He turned professional in 2002. Tall and lanky, he is known for his powerful ground strokes which are created with little effort but his shots can be quite erratic at times. His biggest career win came at the 2004 Athens Olympics where he defeated World No. 1 Roger Federer. At the 2005 Paris Masters he won first career ATP Masters Series title. En route to the final he beat Jiří Novák, 2nd seed Guillermo Coria, 13th seed Juan Carlos Ferrero, 7th seed Gaston Gaudio, 8th seed Radek těpánek, and 6th seed Ivan Ljubičić.
Other notable highlights of his 2005 season included upsetting No. 2 seed Rafael Nadal in the first round of the Cincinnati Masters, reaching the final of the Swedish Open, and the semifinals in Washington DC.
In 2006, he reached his first grass court final at the Gerry Weber Open, falling to World No. 1 Roger Federer (0-6, 7-6, 2-6). Another highlight of his year was his victory over Rafael Nadal at the Rogers Masters, beating the World No. 2 6-1, 3-6, 6-2.
In October, Berdych reached his second ATP final of 2006 in Mumbai. However, he was beaten by Dmitry Tursunov 6-3 4-6 7-6(5). In the ATP Masters Series tournament in Madrid, Berdych upset former World No.1 Andy Roddick 7-6(7) 6-3 to reach the quarter finals. He then defeated Rafael Nadal 6-3 7-6(6) to reach the semi finals.
Berdych is now not well-liked by Spanish fans for his altercation with Spanish sensation Rafael Nadal in Madrid, in which the partisan crowd jeered Berdych during points and Berdych for hushing the crowd after he won the match 6-3 7-6. Berdych never found his rhythm in his semi final match against Fernando Gonzalez as he slumped to a 6-3 6-1 defeat.
Berdych failed to defend his Paris Masters title after he lost to Dominik Hrbaty 6-4 1-6 6-2 in the quarter finals. In earlier rounds, Tomas defeated Olivier Rochus 6-7 6-4 6-2 and Robby Ginepri 6-3 6-3.
Tomas Zib is a male tennis player from the Czech Republic. He reached a career high ranking of 51 in 2005, and is ranked #70 in the world as of January 16, 2006. Zib has earned more than $975,000 in prize money, and plays right-handed.

Mirek Klabal loves when his tennis player friends come in to New York. He feels as though it is his obligation to host them. It gives Mirek Klabal great pleasure and extreme nationalistic pride of his native Czech Republic to see the tennis scene evolving in the Czech Republic. Mirek Klabal feels it is his civic duty to look at for the players and assist them in any way possible. Mirek Klabal is influential in raising the profile of his tennis player friends in the US.

Mirek Klabal says growing up in Eastern Europe he could never have imagined that he would live how he lives currently. Mirek Klabal says doing business in Eastern Europe is so difficult because there is so much red tape and greatly enjoys the transparency of working in America. Mirek Klabal hardly ever goes back to Eastern Europe. Mirek Klabal says New York is his home! Mirek Klabal says he loves the energy of New York. Mirek Klabal says there is so much creative energy, and New York has such a great vibe. That vibe is what makes New York City the best place on earth to live.

Mirek Klabal has great friends and they have stood by him through thick and thin. Mirek Klabal says “that is what makes a good friend, somebody who is there for you when times are tough.” Mirek Klabal is very interested in making sure his friends and family are taken care of. Mirek Klabal always makes time for friends and family. Mirek Klabal likes to have big friends and family gatherings at his house in Greenwich. The barbeque and cocktails parties that he hosts at his house are legendary.

Mirek Klabal is an outdoor enthusiast; Mirek Klabal likes to take trips to the country in his free time. When Mirek Klabal goes to the country he likes to ramble barefoot throughout the land. Mirek Klabal really enjoys when he travels to various horse farms. Mirek Klabal likes all art; he has a fancy for the modern masters but also has a vast collection of various pictures of American landscapes. Mirek Klabal shows the essential mood of a country scene in the various farm scene paintings that he keeps for his children. Mirek Klabal’s fascination with the wild and grand aspects of nature is evident. Mirek Klabal besides liking the modern masters the most, respects The “Hudson River School”. Mirek Klabal says Americans look at the landscapes in the painting as backgrounds in their own backyard, the wilderness is a symbol of America’s unspoiled national character. Mirek Klabal loves nature and is fighting for conservation in his native Connecticut. Mirek Klabal likes to go apple picking in the fall with his wife.
Mirek Klabal is a very charitable man; Mirek Klabal feels that you must be give back to society. Mirek Klabal is very active in various charity organizations. Mirek has a few favorite charities. Mirek Klabal’s favorite charity which he gives not only his money but his time is Seeds of Peace. Seeds of Peace is dedicated to empowering young leaders from regions of conflict with the leadership skills required to advance reconciliation and coexistence. Over the last decade, Seeds of Peace has intensified its impact, dramatically increasing the number of participants, represented nations and programs. Seeds of Peace has focused primarily on bringing Arab and Israeli teenagers together before fear; mistrust and prejudice blind them from seeing the human face of their enemy. Seeds of Peace goes beyond international agreements and treaties. It reverses the legacy of hatred by nurturing lasting friendships that become the basis for mutual understanding and respect. By training these young leaders in conflict resolution skills, Seeds of Peace helps them become the seeds from which an enduring peace will grow. Mirek Klabal spends a great deal of time donating money and raising money for this charity.

Mirek Klabal is involved with a charity called the Children of Henry Street Settlement Mirek Klabal was honored with a beautiful plaque from the Children of Henry Street Settlement for giving a donation enabling inner city kids the opportunity to spend time at a lake side retreat. Mirek Klabal said “It gave me great pleasure to do this, I was so happy after I saw how it benefited the kids.” Henry Street Settlement delivers a wide range of social service and arts programming to more than 100,000 New Yorkers each year. Distinguished by a profound connection to its neighbors, a willingness to address new problems with swift and innovative solutions, and a strong record of accomplishment, Henry Street challenges the effects of urban poverty by helping families achieve better lives for themselves and their children.

Mirek Klabal is also involved in the annual American Heart Association walk in Cape Code, MA. Mirek Klabal says it is important to try when possible to contribute to fighting such a debilitating disease. The American heart association helps fight against heart disease and stroke. Over 1 million people die each year from cardiovascular disease. Mirek encourages people to have a healthier lifestyle to mitigate the risks of heart disease. Mirek Klabal says “Better lifestyle habits can help you reduce your risk for heart attack. This charity does great work and I am glad to do my part.”

Mirek Klabal is involved with the Riverview School. Mirek Klabal and his family are actively involved in this charity. The last few years Mirek Klabal has been one of the sponsors of the Gala Benefit Village of Drams. This past year the proceeds from the Benefit went to enhance the technological capacity in the campus and to support the Secondary School dormitory construction project. The Riverview School is an independent coeducation residential school that provides a caring community for adolescents and young adults with complex language, learning and cognitive disabilities. The school is committed to developing student competence and confidence in academic, social, and independent living skills.

Mirek Klabal also supports the ARC which is a grassroots volunteer organization that works to improve the lives of people with special needs. Mirek Klabal says “I just want to make a difference”.

Many people believe that even the rich lack security of who they are and what they have accomplished. To be taken seriously in our society these days it is not enough to have money. To be a major player in society you must navigate the art world. This is where Mirek Klabal comes into play. Mirek Klabal is the dealer to the stars. Mirek Klabal sells art to wealthy families, famous celebrities, governments and anybody with an eye and wallet for art. But as Mirek Klabal says don’t forget your checkbook, as good art is not cheap. Spending $10 million dollars for a painting from Mirek Klabal is not uncommon. Mirek Klabal says when the newly rich buy art they value art as a passionless commodity to conquer and control. Mirek Klabal says this is one of the main reasons for the rapid increase in the price of art in the last few years. There has been a recent rise in the price of art because the global economy has been doing well. Mirek Klabal says between, the Russian oligarchs, Indian entrepreneurs, Chinese businessman, and hedge fund billionaires.

Over the past thirty years Mirek Klabal has been in the art business. Mirek Klabal is credited with being a pioneer in the art world. Mirek Klabal operated art partnerships for purposes of investing in art before it was in vogue. Mirek Klabal has traveled the world in pursuit of art business opportunities and for the love of art. Mirek Klabal co-developed many art shows in the last 20 years. The art shows that Mirek Klabal has produced are from world famous artists such: Challgal, Picasso, Monet and Warhol. Mirek Klabal aggressively pursues the challenges associated with making art available to kids in the inner cities.

I will leave with this note, Mirek Klabal, is a passionate, articulate, caring and giving man who treats every day as a gift. Did I forget to mention he is an art dealer extraordinaire?

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The Importance Of Making A Will

Please note: this article applies to residents of England, Wales and Northern Ireland and is provided for general information only. It does not constitute financial advice.

It’s not something that anyone likes to think about, but deciding what happens to your estate when you die is crucially important for ensuring that your loved ones are looked after when you’re gone and that your assets are distributed as you would have wished.

Many people think that wills are only necessary for people with a great deal of wealth, but this isn’t the case. There are certain laws governing how a person’s estate is divided if they die ‘intestate’ (i.e. without a will), which might not be what you would expect or intend. For example, if you’re not married or in a civil partnership, even if you co-habit with your partner, they will not be entitled to inherit anything from you unless you specifically mention them in your will. Even if you are married, without children, your spouse will not inherit your entire estate - other living relatives such as your parents and siblings will be entitled to a share. Also, if your circumstances change, for example if you get married, divorced or remarried or have children, this could make your estate more complicated to settle. Another important point to bear in mind is that if you don’t have a will, you won’t have a named executor to carry out the administration of your estate and the responsibility will fall upon your beneficiaries, whom you may deem unsuitable to handle your affairs.

Making a will has other advantages too - planning your estate and who will inherit may help you to minimise the impact of the inheritance tax laws.

To make a will, you must be 18 years of age or older. You must be considered to be of sound mind and it should be written without pressure from any other party. A will must be recorded in writing, and it needs to be signed by yourself in the presence of two witnesses, who must also sign. Beneficiaries of the will and married partners of beneficiaries cannot act as witnesses. If they do, the will won’t be invalidated, but their inheritance will be. The completed and signed will can be kept anywhere you want - at home, at your bank, at your solicitor’s office, at a Probate Sub-registry, a District Registry or the Family Division Registry of the High Court.

The big question for many people is whether it’s necessary to employ a solicitor to set up a will. The answer is no, but it is certainly recommended, particularly if your estate and personal circumstances are rather complex. It’s also easy to make seemingly simple mistakes which could end up having significant consequences. Common errors are not understanding what has to be done to make a will legally valid, changing the will without having it signed by witnesses, failing to make alterations in the event of a change in personal circumstances, forgetting about parts of your estate, or not taking into account that the beneficiary might die before inheriting.

Solicitor charges for setting up a will can vary between solicitors and will also depend on how complex your estate is. If you’re a member of a trade union, your membership may entitle you to a free will-writing service or free legal advice. You can bring down costs by considering in advance what your assets are and to whom you would like to leave them - whether family, friends or charity. This will include property, possessions, bank accounts, insurance policies, pensions and shares. Also think about who you want to appoint as executor of your estate and who you want to look after your children should you die before they reach the age of 18.

You should certainly consider using a solicitor if you have complicated personal circumstances, for example if you live with someone who isn’t your spouse or civil partner, if you have a dependant who is unable to look after themselves, if you have a business or own property abroad, if you don’t live in the UK or aren’t a UK citizen, or if you have lots of family members who may make claims on your estate, such as ex-spouses or children from previous marriages.

If you don’t want to use a solicitor, it’s possible to purchase ‘DIY’ will kits from many high street stationers and bookshops or online providers, which will provide basic guidance.

Remember to make amendments your will any time you have a change in circumstances such as marriage, remarriage, divorce, civil partnership or the birth or adoption of children. You’ll need to be careful in how you amend your will to ensure that it remains valid. It’s not possible to write alterations onto an existing will. Instead you must either write what’s known as a ‘codicil’ or draw up a new will entirely. A codicil is like an addendum to your will. It doesn’t replace the original will, but makes alterations to one or more of the sections. Only the person who created the original will can make a codicil, and it must be signed and witnessed in the same way as the original will (although not necessarily by the same witnesses). It’s only suitable for making small and uncomplicated changes such as increasing or decreasing the amount of money left to a beneficiary, adding a new beneficiary or changing the executor. You can add as many codicils as you want to your will, but if you have lots of amendments or complex changes it’s best to start afresh with a new will altogether. When you draw up your new will, you should insert a clause at the beginning to explain that this new will revokes all previous wills and codicils. Your old will is no longer valid after you do this (and have your new will signed and witnessed), and you should therefore destroy it. You must destroy it yourself too, or have it destroyed in your presence - otherwise it may still be considered valid.

Your will may be challenged if a person feels that it hasn’t left them with adequate provision or they don’t believe it to be valid - for example, if it hasn’t been drawn up in line with the legal requirements outline above.

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Unusual Attractions for Discovery, Education, and Fun

Are you looking for unusual attractions in New Jersey that offer discovery, education, a hobby, or just a different form of fun?

New Jersey has many popular leisure attractions and natural wonders that are widely promoted and visited by the masses. This article will provide information on the little known or offbeat places that are of interest to people with special interests, and for school teachers that are looking for a field trip to supplement their children’s education curriculum.

The Best of New Jersey’s Unusual Attractions

Cowtown Rodeo

780 Route 40, Pilesgrove, NJ

856-769-3200

May-September, 7:30 PM, Saturday nights

Enjoy quality Western Rodeo entertainment by touring professional cowboys. Includes; Bareback Bronc Riding, Calf Roping, Steer Wrestling, Girls Barrel Racing, Brahma Bull Riding.

Franklin Mineral Museum

2 Evans Street , Franklin, Sussex County, NJ

973-827-3481

The Franklin mine is a zinc mine known for its unique display of mineral fluorescence, (glowing rocks) and variety of rare species. They have thousands of mineral specimens on display with a huge fluorescent presentation of brilliant and glowing colorful minerals.

The museum also has demonstrations and examples of the mining methods used during that period of operation. Although the primary focus is mineral science, geology, and local mining history, they also cover the science of archeology and anthropology with field collection and mineral identification. The museum welcomes teachers and school tours and can create a curriculum to fit your schools educational interest.

Grape Expectations

25E Kearney St. Bridgewater, NJ

732-764-WINE (9463)

Create your own quality table wines, using some of the finest varieties of California grapes. Experience the atmosphere of a winery and the enjoyment of the hobby of wine making. You will be involved in the complete process of wine making from the crushing and pressing of your grapes to the racking and bottling of your oak-barreled, specially prepared wine.

Northlandz

495 Highway 202 South, Flemington, NJ

(908) 782-4022

Home of the Great American Railway, Doll Museum & Art Gallery;

They have over a hundred miniature trains and eight miles of track running past mountains and bridges. See the ninety four room dollhouse with many features found in real life mansions. Ride the Raritan River steam Railway replica as it travels through nature filled scenery. Visit the Doll Museum with over two hundred dolls from different countries.

The Pequest Trout Hatchery and

Natural Resource Education Center

605 Pequest Rd. Oxford, NJ

908-637-4125

See a video about the trout hatching process from conception to stocking. Experience a self-instructional tour that shows the trout rearing and an exhibit hall with live fish. Hiking trails and Picnic areas are also available. Great for children and school tours.

Rankokus Indian Reservation

Rancocas, NJ

(609) 261-4747

Situated on 350 acres in the town of Westampton, NJ, is the Indian nation’s administrative and educational, cultural, social programs center that has been established to help the people of the State of New Jersey, and school children in particular, to understand the Rankokus Indians and their ways and history through a tour of the reservation, its museum, art gallery, and the many exhibits and nature trails. Learn about Indian history from the native Indians and the true story of the Pocahontas myth. Popular with teachers and school children who are looking for a field trip to supplement their educational curriculum.

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Unusual Attractions For Discovery, Education And Fun

Are you looking for unusual attractions in New Jersey that offer discovery, education, a hobby, or just a different form of fun?

New Jersey has many popular leisure attractions and natural wonders that are widely promoted and visited by the masses. This article will provide information on the little known or offbeat places that are of interest to people with special interests, and for school teachers that are looking for a field trip to supplement their children’s education curriculum.

The Best of New Jersey’s Unusual Attractions

Cowtown Rodeo
780 Route 40, Pilesgrove, NJ
856-769-3200
May-September, 7:30 PM, Saturday nights
Enjoy quality Western Rodeo entertainment by touring professional cowboys. Includes; Bareback Bronc Riding, Calf Roping, Steer Wrestling, Girls Barrel Racing, Brahma Bull Riding.

Franklin Mineral Museum
2 Evans Street, Franklin, Sussex County, NJ
973-827-3481
The Franklin mine is a zinc mine known for its unique display of mineral fluorescence, (glowing rocks) and variety of rare species. They have thousands of mineral specimens on display with a huge fluorescent presentation of brilliant and glowing colorful minerals.

The museum also has demonstrations and examples of the mining methods used during that period of operation. Although the primary focus is mineral science, geology, and local mining history, they also cover the science of archeology and anthropology with field collection and mineral identification. The museum welcomes teachers and school tours and can create a curriculum to fit your schools educational interest.

Grape Expectations
25E Kearney St. Bridgewater, NJ
732-764-WINE (9463)
Create your own quality table wines, using some of the finest varieties of California grapes. Experience the atmosphere of a winery and the enjoyment of the hobby of wine making. You will be involved in the complete process of wine making from the crushing and pressing of your grapes to the racking and bottling of your oak-barreled, specially prepared wine.

Northlandz
495 Highway 202 South, Flemington, NJ
(908) 782-4022
Home of the Great American Railway, Doll Museum & Art Gallery;
They have over a hundred miniature trains and eight miles of track running past mountains and bridges. See the ninety four room dollhouse with many features found in real life mansions. Ride the Raritan River steam Railway replica as it travels through nature filled scenery. Visit the Doll Museum with over two hundred dolls from different countries.

The Pequest Trout Hatchery and
Natural Resource Education Center
605 Pequest Rd. Oxford, NJ
908-637-4125
See a video about the trout hatching process from conception to stocking. Experience a self-instructional tour that shows the trout rearing and an exhibit hall with live fish. Hiking trails and Picnic areas are also available. Great for children and school tours.

Rankokus Indian Reservation
Rancocas, NJ
(609) 261-4747
Situated on 350 acres in the town of Westampton, NJ, is the Indian nation’s administrative and educational, cultural, social programs center that has been established to help the people of the State of New Jersey, and school children in particular, to understand the Rankokus Indians and their ways and history through a tour of the reservation, its museum, art gallery, and the many exhibits and nature trails. Learn about Indian history from the native Indians and the true story of the Pocahontas myth. Popular with teachers and school children who are looking for a field trip to supplement their educational curriculum.

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